I was processing through one of my close relationships, and I have observed that this person in my life constantly hides from her reality. Seeing this behavior in someone I deeply care about irritated me because I wondered why after all of these years she could not be real and stand in her truth. I also felt bad because her “norm” was putting on and pretending when inside she is experiencing a lot of chaos. I’ve watched this person hide out and pretend that she does not have struggles and that she is happy. However, her entire life has been quite the opposite because she has had to be “on” always to keep up with appearances of perfection.
I can relate to her in the sense that nobody wants to appear weak to others. However, I have learned that everything I have gone through in my life was not only for me to grow, but for others as well. I realize that digging through our pain is an enormous task and is uncomfortable, but at some point we have to surrender to vulnerability. The people we hide from are the very people that need to hear our story. We have all learned different ways to protect ourselves from being hurt, but we must do our work so that we can be truly free.
Facades leave us anxious, depressed, exhausted and alter who we truly are. It takes a lot of work to pretend when all we have to do is be the person God created us to be. Freedom is ridding ourselves of all the layers and acknowledging that we don’t have it all together, and that’s okay. Freedom is shining a light on our dark places. Freedom is admitting we are broken and not displaying constructed versions of ourselves. Freedom is healing.
I am putting down my mask will you? Let’s be honest with God, ourselves and in return we can find true authenticity.
Mark 4:21-22 Jesus went on: “Does anyone bring a lamp home and put it under a washtub or beneath the bed? Don’t you put it up on a table or on the mantel? We’re not keeping secrets, we’re telling them; we’re not hiding things, we’re bringing them out into the open. (The Message Bible)
Kim Womble is a wife, a mommy, a blogger entrepreneur, lover of all things Hip Hop, life coach. And, first and foremost, a God follower! Find & follow her @KimberlyWomble.